Be kind anyway...

While this quote is attributed to Mother Teresa and inscribed on the wall of her home for children in Calcutta, the original version (called the Paradoxical Commandments) was written by Dr. Kent Keith in 1968.

"People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies. Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and sincere, people may deceive you. Be honest and sincere anyway.

What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight. Create anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous. Be happy anyway.

The good you do today will often be forgotten. Do good anyway.

Give the best you have and it will never be enough. Give your best anyway.

In the final analysis, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.

What's your game?

A few months ago in working with a client on the edge of giving up her consultancy, she said to me, "But I don't see you making a million dollars. How do I know I'll be successful?"

I laughed - she thought my game was "make a million dollars" because that's what all the marketing books and "How to's" assume: that you're in it solely or mostly for the money.

My game is "Spend time with my son." As a result, my work is structured so that I can often work at home, work remotely, work part-time and be flexible while still making enough money to sustain us. My son is my priority - he is what I value. So I work to make sure I can be with him as often as possible.

Once she really got that, her attitude changed - she actually went into a bit of shock. She had been assuming that "success" meant huge sums of cash. In that moment she realized that she could define her success conditions any way that suited her. Within 2 weeks her income doubled and her hours going way down and she decided to take a two week vacation to see her family - which is what she values.

Exercise:
How do you define success?
What assumptions are you making that no longer suit you?
If you knew you could not fail, how would you define success?

Replenishing the Source

"Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don't know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings." ~ Anais Nin

Taking Care of Business, Taking Care of You

Money work is about two things: taking care of yourself and information. Most of my posts are about the information side. This post is about some ways that you can take great care of yourself and increase your ability to bring in business at the same time.

In my experience, I handle money best when I'm feeling at my best. When I'm feeling down or haven't been taking good care that's when I'm the most likely to make less than stellar decisions - to spend money badly, dip into savings when I wasn't planning on it, over commit myself, or take too much time off.

So here's a reminder of some things you can do to make sure you're feeling in tip top shape. Doing these things consistently will change the way you spend money because it will change the way that you feel. Most difficult decisions people make around money seem to happen when they are feeling emotional, drained, exhausted or scared.

1. Sleep. Getting enough sleep consistently is one of the most important things you can do for yourself. Make sure your space is comfy and dark and that you get at least 7-8 hours every night. If you're doing substantial healing work (physical or emotional) you need 9 and a half hours a night.

2. Eat well. You are what you eat, literally. Your cell walls are made of the fats you eat, your blood carries the nutrients, proteins make up your skin and hair and veggies support your system running clean and getting rid of waste. Crowd out caffeine, sugar, preservatives and trans fats with real, whole, nourishing foods. Eat what truly nourishes you so that you are available, focused and ready for your business and for your life.

3. Exercise. Exercise is the only thing clinically proven to improve depression - the only thing. Moving your body consistently changes your brain chemistry, makes you more effective, able to focus, lifts your mood, and makes you ready to take on the world. Find some way that you love to move your body and go for it! If you don't love your body, begin by becoming aware of that and notice what joy there is. Keep coming back to that in any moments of self-destructive behavior to help you re-focus. You are a beautiful human being.

4. Get outside. The earth, the clean air, the sunlight all have things to offer your body. Sunlight effects brain chemistry positively. 20 minutes a day is the minimum needed to get your sun-related vitamins. Yum!

5. Be kind. Doing a kind act releases serotonin which makes you feel good. In fact, doing the act, receiving the act, and watching the act all create those chemicals. Make kindness part of your day and see how it changes the way you feel.

5. Love. Be with people who feed you and who you feel good about. When you're filled up you're more likely to do something kind and be at your best and that draws the best of the universe to you.

6. Play. Playfulness inspires participation. Looking to bring in new clients? Play. Looking to find a partner? Play. Get out and have a great time and see what happens, how many people you meet and how you feel afterwards (it's also great to helping you induce sleep and cure insomnia!). It's one we often seem to over look, but that attitude is more likely to bring in clients than all the other things you're doing combined. Plus it's fun. And who doesn't want to have fun?

6. Practice skilled relaxation. Whether it's meditation, yoga or Tai Chi, doing something that intentionally brings you into your body and present helps your nervous system do it's job and take better care of you and your brain which makes decision-making more clear. Plus it feels so good.

7. Contribute. Recently in a workshop Matthew Engelhart of Cafe Gratitude fame, said something to the effect of, "When you feel constricted around money, give." Contribution gives life purpose and meaning as does love and family. These are things that help us, causing us to strive for the best and reach beyond ourselves into the extra-ordinary. Also remember that bit about kindness above? I'm a volunteer junkie - helping people makes me feel really good. And right now there are a lot of opportunities to help. So figure out what inspires you and give - time, money, energy and see what happens. Open the door to possibilities and co-creating something amazing with the people you love.

8. Take care of the gift wrap for your soul. You body is the home of your emotions, thoughts, and actions. Don't put off the trip to the dentist, doctor, healer, massage practitioner or body worker. If you know you need to, you do. Feeding yourself in that way makes you available to friends, family and your business. You've only got one body and I know it's cliche, but it will take care of you if you take care of it. All those aches and pains, lack of clarity, headaches and stiffness are telling you something. Tune in and listen.

Have a beautiful amazing day and I look forward to seeing you out in the wide world!

Did you know?

That there were more millionaires were made during the depression than any other time in history?

That's what I hear.

After doing a bunch of reading what I'm learning is that people who keep up their financial education and use their liquid capital to invest in things that develop during this time people make a lot of money. In part that's because many people are freaking out and pull out of their investments, get out of their homes and use the model of fear being generated in the economy to drive them.

There are always people who make money during any economic downturn, after all the unemployment rate rises to 12 or 20% that still sees more than 80% of people in jobs. And while it sucks to lose your job, many people do not. Many people are just fine. And in fact in the US most of us are more wealthy than 95% of people around the world.

And in fact I can see it. In this economy I'm bringing in clients. They are coming to me. I have a commitment to do my best for clients, consistently learning and growing. And I'm not giving up. I'm not watching CNN (Constantly Negative News) and I'm not reading the newspaper and I'm not letting fear run me.

I am:
I am learning more: going to seminars, getting further education in my trade and connecting further into my professional networks.
I am listening to people who are highly profitable and learning what they are doing.
I am meditating and taking good care of myself.
I am not letting the voices that come up of fear, defeat and hardship run me. Instead I tell them no and decide what my possibilities are.

Instead of worrying about money and listening to that negative story, take a moment right now and ask yourself: what are the possibilities? How could I be even more kind to myself and even more loving? What is possible for me right now? And take one action RIGHT NOW towards being the person you really want to be or having the business that really inspires you and your community. That will show your story that you mean business and that things are changing - right now.

Inoculations of Hope

In the pre-Obama world a lot of people working for peace and justice on the left had a lot of fear, doubt, pain and anger about the possibilities of change. But even in that place, one of my favorite resources has been Rob Bresnzy and his book Pronoia: The Antidote for Paranoia. Well today I found his blog.

It has a lot of things that are really right in the world. If you need a dose of hope, check it out.

What do you intend?

I've been watching people - friends and clients alike - freak out about the recent financial uproar. It all seems so scary. There's not a lot of information and a lot of speculation and fear.

I found this video amusing and helpful. It's reassuring to think about legislators being willing to speak their truth.

What I've been doing is thinking about how money and our interactions with it transform out lives. I've been holding this quote from Lynne Twist's "The Soul of Money" close to me:

"Money travels everywhere, crosses all boundaries, languages, and cultures. Money, like water, ripples at some level through every life and place. It can carry our love or our fear. It can flood some of us such that we drown in a toxic sense of power over others. It can nourish and water the principles of freedom, community, and sharing. Money can affirm life or it can be used to demean, diminish, or destroy it. It is neither evil nor good; it is an instrument. We invented it, and it belongs squarely in the human experience, but it can be used by and merged with the longings and passions of our soul."

Remembering that we have assets that have nothing to do with our finances is a great benefit right now. Money is part of the human experience, but only one part.